Stop caring

What advice would you give to your teenage self?

A little backstory

Okay this is a nice one, don’t we alle have those things that we just wish we knew back then, and the thoughts or wishes that we could go back in time to change something?

Mostly I do not, actually, but there is one thing that has been clear to me from the beginning.

Learn to not care what others think or feel about you!

This is due to me at that time usually were very timid, introvert and was afraid to get looked at. I do not remember when this began, because as a kid I have seen videos of me being super outrovert and just going about my ways no matter what I was told. This may just be a standard kid behaviour before one is conformed to societal rules and whatnot. But there must have been a point where this changed, since I remember all of high school as being an introvert. Just hanging around with my safe nerd friends, struggling to talk to other people, specially the ones considered popular.

At our graduation part, even our “Russebil” was named Anonymous Alcoholics (this is just a fun name), the anonymous part was because we all were mostly timid and spent most time in the background during high school.

Just don’t care

I remember the time when this changed, it is a defining moment for me, sort of. Strangely enough, it all happened at the switch of a button, and in a few seconds, everything changed, here is the story:

When I attended a folk high school, during a autumn break, I went to the capital and bought a funny “Shark-hat” at a Japanese store. I loved it, it was so cool!

But I was afraid to use it, so I just brought it to school without using it. One day I wanted to use it, I got to the thought of just using it, to not care what others thought. My idea was that, either if they laugh at me, I manage to bring laughter, which is good in general, no matter if they laugh at me or with me. Or maybe they like it, which is even better.

I went, they laughed, but they also complimented me by saying it was really cool, and many had not seen anything like it before. This made me happy. And this magically just changed me, from then on, I was not scared anymore for what others could think of me.

Allora, if I could give my teenage self and advice from current me, it would be this:
Learn to not care what others think or feel about you!